Learning to love or hate the game
Posted by Dean Holden at September 9th, 2013
By Hal Tearse, 1 November 2012
Hockey can be the greatest game on Earth and those of us with passion for the game would argue late into the night with anybody who disagreed. Parents and coaches are very passionate and ambitious when it comes to hockey.
There are, however, many who are not yet as passionate as the adults – the players. In our haste to develop future hockey scholarship children, we deny them the opportunity to develop a passion for the game. It is time now at the beginning of the season to take a hard look at this important issue and start to ease off the accelerator a bit.
As adults, those of us who played hockey from a young age know the excitement of the games and the fun we had with our friends while growing up and playing hockey. We played with our teams a few times a week and played rink rat hockey with our friends the rest of time. We learned by watching and playing with the older kids.
We loved to play and still do. Most rinks in the state are busy after 10 p.m., with the “old timers” who still love to play. But shame on us for assuming our children share our passion and love for the game without giving them the same opportunities to learn about the game and to become passionate about hockey.
I recently heard from a father of an eight-year-old girl who is starting to play hockey this year. He was excited that she wanted to play but when he found out that the team skated four times a week, he was a bit dismayed. He told me “she doesn’t do anything four times a week.”
He went on to say that several of her classmates who played hockey last year as seven-year-olds were quitting because of the time commitment required.
Another recent conversation with a friend that recently returned to Minnesota was also quite revealing. His granddaughter is beginning to play hockey and having coached in past years, he volunteered to help out. He was amazed that Mite teams had full-ice practices and with only one team of 12 skaters on the ice. There was no plan, no curriculum for skill development and no real sense of what to do with the kids. He has volunteered to organize the program and make it work for the kids.
An e-mail asked that Minnesota Hockey address the issue of “short benches” at the Mite and Squirt levels. The author claimed it is a problem in his program and he is concerned about the impact on the kids as the adults seek to win more games.
Often I am told by parents of players on B teams they are so thankful their child did not make the A team, especially at Bantams. They cite undue pressure to win (short benches), late night practices and games, overly ambitious parents and coaches, and excessive cost as negatives. They feel the B teams offer a better environment with less stress and a little more attention to fun.
When in this process of escalating ice time commitments, travel, tournaments and thousands of dollars spent is a child supposed to learn to love the game? After all, the game is supposed to be for them but without passion they will never reach their full potential.
Today most children think that hockey involves adults yelling at them most of the time and trying to “coach” them to do better or their parents offering helpful advice from the stands during games like “skate” or “shoot.” The kids “love the new jerseys, warm-up suits, hats, personalized team equipment bags and stick bags, $150 sweatshirts with their names in eight-inch double tackle twill that match their $120 team jackets with their name and number for all to see. These are all nice but they have nothing to do with playing hockey.
Last fall two high profile Canadian players who were destined for the NHL quit playing at the ages 19 and 20. One because he had been injured the previous season and learned that there was more to life than hockey. The other quit, stating, “There has been too much pressure for too long. It’s not fun any more.”
Both shocked the hockey world. I know several former players that I coached years ago and more recently from my son’s youth teams that chose to leave the game for the same reasons. Too much time commitment at early ages chases players out of the game.
Minnesota Hockey only offers competitive hockey programs and leaves program design in the hands of the local associations and districts. It really is up to the parents in each association to ensure that their program fits what is best for kids at each age level. Here are some ideas that might be useful for each association to consider.
• 8 and Under: Limit organized events to three times a week – offer one time a week for open hockey for those who want the extra session. Do not subsidize the costs. Find ways to make it affordable with multiple teams on ice, outside ice and less expensive equipment.
• Squirts (Atoms)/U10: Limit formal practices and games to four days a week. Add one unstructured session for the kids to play pond hockey. Game limit of 35.
• PeeWees/U12: Limit formal practices and games to five times per week. Make one or two practices a month “optional.” Game limit of 45.
• Bantam/U14: Maximum six days a week. Kids home for dinner two school nights a week (not out late at the rink). Two or three optional attendance practices a month. Players run practice once a month. Limit tournaments to four. Game limit of 55.
• Recreational teams: Offer the opportunity for kids to play hockey a couple times a week so they can also do other things. Maybe two shorter seasons during the winter and for larger associations in house teams.
The issue at stake is really the future of the game in Minnesota. If we do not give our children a chance to develop a love for the game on their terms, many of them will simply hate the game and quit at an early age. Youth sports has spiraled into a huge industry at the expense of kids’ youth and parents’ pocket books. The only way to reclaim their childhood and let them love the game is to set boundaries and remember that they are just kids.
This article originally appeared Nov. 3, 2011 but warrants another posting at the start of school and various sport seasons!